Remembering to Forget

I subscribe to the online version of "Christianity Today". Came across an article today by Ellen Vaughn which was adapted from her book "Radical Gratitude: Discovering Joy, Through Everyday Thankful". A timely reminder that starting the new year off right means looking forward, not backward.

Here goes:

Forgetfulness comes naturally to most of us. But it is highly selective. But why is it that we forget the wrong things? Why is it so easy to forget the spiritual truths we need to remember, like God's incredible love for us, His gracious work in our lives, His Word? And conversely, why is it so easy to remember what we'd just as soon forget?

Why do many of us remember in great detail every embarrassing thing we've ever done? Why are some of us haunted by sins from our past, carrying their shame as if it was yesterday?

Remembering God's faithfulness is a key part of our spiritual development. But, at the same time, before our spiritual vitality can really flow, we must forget three things.

1. We must forget our sins.
Obviously we must remember our sins as we are able, in order to confess them! But having done so, we must let them go. This is basic, but we need to preach it to ourselves every day, for it is at the heart of the gospel: "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).

A friend told me about his son's challenges with his car, and consequently with his auto insurance. It seemed that the son had incurred some reckless driving offenses that were an indelible part of his record. Accordingly, his insurance costs were approximately astronomical.

My friend went through a number of procedures; his son went to driving school; a judge was gracious. And the record was expunged.

It was too good to be true. Just for fun, my friend called the dmv, cited his son's entire name and Social Security number, and asked about the citations on his record.

There was a long pause while the staff person checked the computer. She came back on the line. "Sir," she said, "we have no record of any offenses at all."

As my friend says, that's how forgiveness is. The fact that God forgets is like calling heaven and hearing, "There is no record of any offense." It's not that the offenses are still on the page, crossed out with heavy marker, and everyone can tell there was a big mess right there. Nor are they partially erased, but still visible. They are expunged. It is as if they never existed.

We need to take God at His word. The extent to which we dwell on and obsessively noodle on our own sins from the past—sins for which we have repented—shows the extent to which we really believe God.

Satan would lure us to live in guilt and fear. He pulls us into the shadow boxes of memory, in which our worst sins replay on the walls of our minds, flickering with their shameful power … what if we just can't forget our sins?

We need to be very clear here, or we'll miss the liberating point. It's not as if forgiveness is real only if we experience some kind of holy amnesia. It is not up to us. It is up to God. And the Scriptures say that God forgets our sins (Heb. 8:12).

2. We must forget our shame.
Sometimes, even if we have mentally let go of various sins, their residual shame still sticks. Shame can spur depression, and dysfunction of every kind.

The apostle Paul could have been a prime candidate for shame, hopelessly glugging first-century wine in order to forget the horrors of his past sins. He writes of not just his pharisaical pride, but the fact that he had presided over the harassment, imprisonment, torture, and murder of innocent human beings.

When I am tempted to despair in shame over past personal choices, I have found Paul's "Popeye prayer" in 1 Corinthians 15:10 enormously helpful: "But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace to me was not without effect" (emphasis mine).

God's grace is stronger than our shame—most supremely, because it was defanged when Jesus died and rose again. We can choose to believe this or not. But God's magnificent provision is more than ample: we can forget our slithering shame, for Jesus took it. He scorned it, beat it, broke it. We need not take it back.

3. We also must forget our successes.
This doesn't necessarily mean that we must forget how we won the sixth-grade spelling bee, or the great projects we've completed, or viable accomplishments in various endeavors. We are to work and live with excellence as unto God, and He takes pleasure in our successes as they are offered to His glory.

But we should forget past successes if they have defined our identity or caused us to be complacent, smug, and self-congratulatory. We're not to fondle the past, dwelling on past glories. (Similarly, we must make sure that our stories of God's work and grace in our lives are not all old. If we can only point to instances of God's faithfulness from five years ago but have none from this week, then our connection with Christ is not very current.)

Again, Paul is a great model. In one of his letters he warns the Philippians against those who would put their confidence in human criteria and accomplishments.

If anyone else thinks he has reasons to put confidence in the flesh, I have more, he said, citing his power résumé that many of his day would have coveted. He could have been a total prig. But his focus was not on his past.

"But whatever was to my profit I now consider loss for the sake of Christ," he said. " … One thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" (Phil. 3:7-14).

Again, Paul had learned that the secret of being content did not depend on what he had, but who he knew. He knew the Lord was near. He knew how to live so immersed in Him that gracious gratitude—and the corresponding peace of God—overwhelmed his earthly fears.

The only obstacles that keep us from the rich freedom that Paul enjoyed are our own cheap snares and doubts. We get lost in these when we look to ourselves, preoccupied by our sin, our shame, our success, as if it were all about us. But if we can forget these tangles and leave them behind, like Paul, we begin to see that God's love is bigger than we ever dared to dream.

(According to the photo caption, this is the world's first pair of sports shoes)

If you too are a Christian, some questions to ponder:
1) What sins, shame, or successes are holding you back from living freely?

2) Ellen Vaughn suggests "we must make sure that our stories of God's work and grace in our lives are not all old." Name some of the ways that God has worked in your life recently.

3) Read Psalm 103:8-12. What does it tell us about God's character?

To read the full article, go to: http://www.christianitytoday.com/tc/2006/001/6.54.html